Woman - The ordinary

Women are often marked as the symbols of sacrifice, selflessness, and unconditional love. It’s by far the truth and women do have the capabilities.

But the question is are those titles creating impressions that get wired in our brains? Do the compliments slowly turn into expectations leading to pressure on women?

Once a woman reaches her teenage, everything in the house starts to direct towards her marriage in one way or the other. From her sleeping habits to the way she laughs, everything is attached to marriage. Come on, even interviewers observe body language. Why can’t you say that and suggest her change the way she laughs? You don’t as that won’t even cross your mind.

Once she gets married, she is expected to be a complete woman, who puts everyone first and herself last. If she tries to take good care of herself, prioritize her career, her body, and her time, she becomes a selfish person. This still exists in some of the households. How ironic!

According to me, the health and wellness of a woman in the house are more important as she is the one who nurtures the home. So, she should BE HER FIRST PRIORITY. And there’s no wrong with it.

Putting us on a pedestal by repeatedly saying that “women are more patient than men", “ women sacrifice a lot and they are next to selfless human beings", “women take care of everyone and puts themselves last, how loving they are", people are not just giving compliments to women but making those compliments create strong impressions which in turn turns into expectations from people who are close to them. Even women feel guilty if they don’t act accordingly and cross a little line to take care of themselves which should be stopped.

Women and all others should understand that women are normal people just like others and they do have their own dreams, their choices, their desire to be rich, their desire to be more intimate with partners, choice of not wanting kids at the early stages of marriage due to career or choice of not wanting kids at all!! Yes, all these things will be there in women and they are NORMAL. They are not supernatural individuals who are born just to put others first always!!